Thanks for taking the time to write such an insightful question, Joe! I think it's absolutely possible for two people to go on a date and have a good time even though there is little possibility of a relationship.

I think what's important here is intention. If your primary intention is to be more open to connection and meeting new people, then these types of dates are totally fine.

But if your primary intention in going on these dates is to have a hit of validation, then that's not respectful of yourself or the other person.

I love the analogy of moderation and I think that's an excellent point. Most things are OK in moderation.