Hi Murewa, thank you for being so open and raw about your experiences. Your comment is almost the perfect appendix to my article. It is what I forgot to say - that it is very important to choose to invest in people who also invest in us. I hope you find more people who help you heal. I love the concept of using marks and I think it is helpful to check in and make sure that we are not giving at the expense of ourselves. Thank you again for taking the time to write this comment.