Hi Linda, thank you for taking the time to write a response. It helps me to understand how my writing is being received and makes me a more thoughtful writer. I didn't think that being playful or optimistic equated to putting yourself second. I also think that the advice is gender neutral. After reading comments, yours and others, I did realize that I should have stressed that Alex also reciprocates these traits. I just didn't tell it from Beth's perspective because I know Alex better. Either way, thank you for sharing your thoughts. It is much appreciated. If you would like to share more on your perspective about what else is disturbing, I would love to hear it. Please feel free to write to me at maeyalily@gmail.com