Hey Piper! Your comment is the perfect appendix to this article. The approach isn't meant to come across as transactional but I can see how it can. The main takeaway I think is "Don't ever take more than you have given." I also think human dynamics are complex and multiple angles (such as why we would want to change them in the first place) are hard to capture in a 10-minute piece. But I couldn't agree more. I recently wrote another article along the lines of transactional versus relational where I discussed what you brought up here. Thank you for raising it in such an articulate and constructive way. It really adds to the discussion.