Hey J.C., thank you for taking the time to share your story. It made me pause and think about it for a long time. As a child of someone who has a lot of unresolved trauma, I can fully see your predicament.

I won't pretend that I have all the answers but after thinking on it for a while, perhaps I have a different perspective to share - I think part of accepting our parents is also so that we stop being frustrated when they don't change. So, in a way, we accept the situation "as it is" not for them, but for our own sanity. I think you are fully valid in feeling repulsed and hurt by her actions and perhaps that won't change. But maybe accepting that she will not change may free you from continuously being disappointed when she doesn't.

I hope that's helpful but also understand that familial relationships are more complicated than we can address in a 10 minute article. If you have more thoughts to share, do feel free to reach out directly by emailing me at may@mojomint.com. I'd love to unpack it with you.