Don’t Let People Live Rent Free in Your Mind — Here’s How to Evict Them

You wouldn’t choose tenants based on how much they stress you out so don’t do the same with thoughts you allow in your mind.

May Pang
Better Humans
Published in
9 min readMay 16, 2023

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Created by the author on Dall-E 2

Let’s imagine that you finally bought your dream house. Not just any old house you can afford, but “The Dream Home.” The one you could only afford after eating ramen noodles for ten years. The one that’s been on your vision board since you were 18. The one you maxed out every one of your credit cards to make perfect.

“Maybe you should consider a tenant? The mortgage is pricey, isn’t it? You have a walk-out basement that would be perfect to rent out while still giving you privacy,” your pragmatic parents say.

“No, no, no…NO way,” you say. “This is my sanctuary. I’ve put in way too much of myself to let some stranger in my space.”

Now let’s imagine a stranger walked in through your front door, threw smelly trash everywhere, and announced loudly that they will live in your dream home for free. They’re not asking for permission. They are exploding into your sanctuary in the most obnoxious way possible.

By the way, just so you’re clear, they don’t intend to change their horrible behavior in any way because they don’t really…

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Combining Storytelling with Science. Communication & Connection Coach. Would love to hear from you!💗may@mojomint.com 💙 www.mojomint.com. Based in Boulder, CO.