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Emotional Intelligence

Asking for something exposes your vulnerability and demands honest communication. I decided to practice this for 30 days.

Conceptual illustration of two friends comforting each other through the phone; one holds an umbrella over the other’s rain.
Conceptual illustration of two friends comforting each other through the phone; one holds an umbrella over the other’s rain.
Image by Ponomariova_Maria

The truth is most of us have struggled to ask for what we need for a long time. The pandemic has just highlighted how important that ability actually is.

Someone asks you:

“How are you doing?”

And you reply:

“I’m fine.”

But deep down inside, are you?

You’re not fine, but you have no idea what else to say. Perhaps nothing has really materially changed in the last few weeks. You have a job, your children are safe (even if they’re driving you nuts), and you and your partner are healthy.

You’re not fine, but it seems selfish to say you need something—even if it’s just reassurance or conversation—when you know other people have it far worst. …


Be the coffee bean — that’s what the world needs more of right now

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Image by Jan Alexander from Pixabay

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. …


Going without food for a few days helps me reset my emotional eating, but I had to learn from some mistakes along the way.

A glass of water.
A glass of water.
Image credit: Nataliia Yankovets.

Editor’s note: the practice of fasting for health or spiritual reasons has been around for centuries. Some of these practices, however, have similarities with behaviors associated with Anorexia nervosa. If you suspect that your interest in fasting is related to compulsive behaviors, we encourage you to use the screening tool and resources from the National Eating Disorders Association to evaluate the right course of action for you.

The first time I considered fasting, the first thought that came to my mind was, “I am literally going to die.”

It didn’t matter that I had grown up in a Muslim country and personally observed thousands of people fasting for the month of Ramadan while living perfectly normal lives. …

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May Pang

Experiments in living intentionally and connecting deeply. I want to hear from you! —maeyalily@gmail.com. Website — www.mojomint.com. Facebook — MojoMint

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