I suppose “because I told you to” probably isn’t good enough..
OK, I get it.
You don’t really know me and there are a gajillion writers out on Medium right now wanting your eyeballs.
Maybe you read one of my articles, and you liked it. And the very next day, I wrote something totally different and it made you think, “What is this girl all about?”
Now, this is usually where most writers start talking about themselves (which I’ll get to) but before I ask for any more of your attention, let me tell you what’s in it for you.
My Promise to You
I promise I won’t churn out endless listicles and quoticles (yes…
An easy index to help you navigate to the parts of my writing you enjoy
If you’re reading this, then the first thing I want to say is thank you. Your support means more than you know and I hope that you will reach out one day and leave a comment or say hi. I created this index to help you find my latest work easier. I also sorted the rest of my work by most popular and by category so you can read more of what you like and ignore more of what you don’t. Enjoy!
Sometimes looks, charm, and magnetism aren’t the main things people end up falling for
My friend Alex is quite possibly the reincarnation of Casanova. I have never seen anyone who could get so many women to salivate over him just by walking into a room. It didn’t matter if they were shy or outgoing, young or old — they would immediately turn to mush the minute he looked their way.
It made me curious. How does someone who could have anyone he wanted choose who he would date? More importantly, who does he fall in love with? So, a few years ago, I asked him.
He told me something that I’ll always remember.
“There…
Sometimes, becoming single is actually a step forward in finding the love you want
My friend John was glowing. John is usually a bubbly and optimistic person anyway — but that day, he was positively glowing with energy. He looked like he had either won the lottery or fallen in love and I knew that neither was true.
“I just feel that life is suddenly so full of potential and opportunity,” John exclaimed when I asked him about his source of joy. This doesn’t seem like such a strange statement on its own but it is very strange when you consider that John is recently divorced. The most surprising part of our conversation came…
Sometimes, the most invaluable present you can give is free
In 1984, a woman gave her husband an incredible gift. Unbeknownst to her, this simple, free act of unwavering love that took less than a minute to deliver would not just change their lives but would make history. In the years to come, this gift would touch the lives of many around the world — definitely mine — and perhaps yours, too.
You see, this man had given up on himself. He had fought long and hard for his dream and he had given it everything. …
An apology to all the men I never loved.
“I’m just not into Asian guys,” I would say flippantly as I dated my way through the rainbow of white, brown, black, and latte-colored men.
“I’m not sure why,” I would say.
I may not have known why I didn’t like Asian men but I did know that my preferences go way back. I recently found a journal entry I wrote when I was an 8-year-old in Malaysia declaring that I wanted to marry a blue-eyed blond man. Where would a child who had never even met a Caucasian person get this notion from?
It took me 20 years to…
How to go from “Hello” to “Good morning”
“Getting a date is the easy part,” Sam moaned.
I wasn’t surprised. With his striking blue eyes and chiseled jaw packaged into 6 feet of pure muscle, I could definitely see dates coming easily to him. It also helped that Sam was outgoing, hilarious, and kind.
“So what’s the problem?” I asked.
“So, here’s how the last few dates have gone. I meet a girl, we like each other, we talk for hours. It’s fun and enjoyable. Then, it’s the end of the night and I feel like I’ve made another great friend and am no closer to finding a…
It’s time to find your big, hairy, audacious goals
What was your immediate emotional reaction when you read the headline?
Be honest — was it fear? or just a teeny bit of anxiety?
Don’t worry if it is, you are not alone. The majority of people I asked this question to over the years have experienced an immediate reaction of anxiety. That seems counterintuitive, right? Why would we be scared of guaranteed success?
It’s because we love hiding behind our excuses, our obligations, and our perceived limitations. When those excuses are taken away, we no longer have a reason not to try. And that — can be terrifying.
“I’ve…
Do you have hard physical boundaries but no emotional boundaries?
My coworker Alayna prides herself on having hard boundaries — she says no to working weekends, refuses to lend money to family, and never, ever has sex with someone before the third date.
You would think that Alayna would be someone who has a peaceful mind, one that is impermeable to the outside world. You could also be forgiven for thinking that Alayna has her act together and is in total control of her world.
And you would be dead wrong on both counts.
In fact, Alayna is quite possibly the most emotionally volatile person I know. An emoji from…
It’s time to start healing
My friend Nancy held an extraordinary series of events this summer. I did not realize how extraordinary they were until I watched the recent violence at the Capitol and realized how deeply divided this country really has become.
Nancy lives in a quiet suburb in Colorado. As the pandemic hit, she and her husband were feeling increasingly isolated. She wished that she lived in a friendlier neighborhood where she actually spoke to her neighbors. So, she decided to do something about it.
An ex-piano teacher, she decided to hold garden concerts twice a month. She would send out invitations to…
May Pang
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