OK, I get it.
You don’t really know me and there are a gajillion writers out on Medium right now wanting your eyeballs.
Maybe you read one of my articles, and you liked it. And the very next day, I wrote something totally different and it made you think, “What is this girl all about?”
Now, this is usually where most writers start talking about themselves (which I’ll get to) but before I ask for any more of your attention, let me tell you what’s in it for you.
I promise I won’t churn out endless listicles and quoticles (yes…
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Lana and her fiance, Mike, often joke that they are not on each other’s radar. And it’s true — they’re not. When they first started dating, they often wondered why they never popped up on each other’s dating apps. They finally realized it was because neither person matched any of the criteria the other person entered in their apps. They weren’t even in the acceptable age groups for each other!
I’ve known Lana almost our entire lives and Mike is definitely not the man she thought she wanted. As a successful, outgoing, and athletic woman — she had always sought…
“I don’t know why you’re so scared. It seems pretty easy to me,” she stares at me with the casual innocence and defiance that she is so famous for.
“You’re just writing, right? Type words in and hit publish? That’s it? No snakes or spiders?”
I nod tentatively. I hate it when she’s right and she’s so often right. How does one explain societal expectations, fear of rejection, Resistance (with a capital R), and the Ego (with a capital E) to a 9-year-old? One doesn’t.
Because she doesn’t care and that’s what I love about her. She’s not looking for…
I want you to play along with me. Let’s imagine that last week, you went to a bar and met four people you were attracted to. You thought giving a compliment would be a pretty safe thing to do. So, you say the same thing to each person, “You look great tonight.”
You got a glare, a beaming smile, silence, and a nervous laugh. In the same outfit, the same mood, and with the same line — you got four very different responses. …
“Oh my God, it was the worst date ever! I was totally kittenfished!” my friend Sandra exclaimed in her typically dramatic fashion.
I laughed, “Do you mean catfished?”
Sandra looked at me like I was someone who hadn’t dated in a million years. “No, I mean kittenfished. They were his photos but just 10 years old and 20 pounds lighter.”
“Yeah, but how bad could it be?” I asked.
“He had no teeth!” she moaned. “I could have dealt with 20 pounds heavier but I feel like you should declare lack of teeth!”
I burst out laughing. “Well, what about…
I was listening to a podcast where the former CTO of Coinbase was explaining why some great products fail. He explained that there are two distinct parts to successfully launching a product. First, a product has to be good. Second, it must also have good distribution.
Most engineers fail to understand the importance of the latter part. They think that if they build a good product, people will come. The reality is that distribution is just as important, if not more so. Anyone who has watched a viral cat video will immediately know this to be true. …
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou
“Hi, I’m Yuji!” he said with a massive grin that spread across his entire face.
“Oh, I know who you are!” I blurted out rather ineloquently. It wasn’t my fault really. It’s not every day that a rock-climbing legend reaches out to greet me with that kind of enthusiasm. The next words out of his mouth were even more surprising.
“Did you climb today? Where did you go? What climbs are you…
I’ve only ever been attracted to a woman once. It was over 10 years ago but I still remember how electrifying her presence was. Whenever I was around Natalie, it was clear that I wasn’t the only one who thought that she was incredibly sexy. Sexiness seemed to ooze out of Natalie’s pores and she exuded an energy that was noticeable by everyone in her presence. In fact, the mutual friend who introduced us later confessed that Natalie was the only woman she had ever had a crush on too.
It’s worth noting that Natalie doesn’t look anything like what…